Apr 07,1984---Nov 10,2021

Thomas L. Casey, 37, of Merriam, Kansas, passed away on Nov. 10 after a long battle with bile duct cancer. Tom died peacefully at the Kansas City Hospice House surrounded by loving family members, friends and his dog, Gregory.

Tom was born in Cleveland, Ohio, on April 7, 1984 to Frieda and Mike Casey. He was two-and-half years younger than his sister, Megan. On May 4, 2013, he married his soulmate, Mary. The joyous spark of their wedding day never left Tom or Mary.

Tom graduated from Bishop Miege High School in 2003. At Miege, Tom ran track and cross country, played the tuba in the band and performed in a school play.

Besides these extracurricular activities, what defined Tom’s high school years was service to others. He earned a Presidential Volunteer Service Award all four years, spending his spring breaks on mission trips to Native American reservations, West Virginia and Mexico. Not only did he give up his spring breaks, he paid for the trips himself.

The mission to serve others stayed with Tom through the rest of his life. Over the years, he volunteered at the Rose Brooks Center, Catholic Charities of Northeast Kansas and the Kansas City Irish Fest. Tom earned an associate’s degree with an emphasis on social work from Johnson County Community College.

While working at the Johnson County Adult Detox Center, Tom met Mary, one of his co-workers. At the time, Tom had a rule not to date co-workers. Tom said the best decision of his life was to forget that rule, and he eventually married the love of his life.

Tom’s interests included mixed martial arts, training at several locations in the Kansas City area. He had an encyclopedic knowledge of the Marvel and DC universes. His favorite super hero was Spiderman. He enjoyed playing video games, in particular Marvel games and Star Wars games.

Tom was proud of his Irish heritage. He built floats for the St. Patrick’s Day parade, marched in the parade, attended events at Kansas City Irish Center and volunteered to help at the Irish Fest Mass. Tom also was a member of St. Joseph Catholic Church in Shawnee, Kansas.

He loved going to movies, attending baseball games and most important of all spending time with his parents and sister; his wife, Mary, and  her parents, Doug and Elaine Hoffman, and Tom’s best friends, Ryan and Kristen Burroughs.

Tom also delighted in walking his dog, Gregory, chasing Gregory and just holding the little dog. When Gregory visited Tom at the hospice house, Tom greeted him, by asking “How’s it going Pal?”

Tom’s 18-month battle with cancer displayed his best qualities of grace, courage and kindness. He never once complained, never once said “Woe is me,” and never once asked “Why Me?” When various treatments failed to stop his cancer, Tom’s response was always – What do we need to do now to move forward. Doctors and nurses called him a stoic and a trooper.

Throughout the struggle, Tom used humor to alleviate others discomfort with his illness. One of the doctors was distressed at Tom’s cancer diagnosis and asked Tom what he could do for him. Tom responded: You can cosign for a Tesla for me. The doctor laughed.

While Tom was in the hospital recovering from a painful operation, a food service worker delivered Tom’s dinner. Though Tom was in great pain, he asked the worker how his day was going. The man said it was a rough day because his knee was hurting him. Tom said, “I’ll pray for you.” That moment testified to Tom’s faith and kindness.

There’s a saying for the deceased: We shall never see the likes of him again. Rather than reflect on that thought, the best way to remember Tom is to be more like him through love and kindness.

Tom’s mother wanted to share her thoughts about her son.

On the day Tom died, the heavens poured down tears of sadness. The next day the sun rose with clear azure skies with the heavens welcoming Tom and his beautiful soul. A piece of my heart will be with you always. And when I think of you, it will be with a smile. Tommy I love you and miss you.

Tom was preceded in death by his grandparents, Leo T. Casey Jr. and Mary Patricia (Lynch) Casey, and Freddie Thompson and Jeannie (Stone) Thompson.   

Survivors include: his wife, Mary (Hoeller) Casey of Merriam; his parents, Mike and Frieda (Thompson) Casey of Overland Park: his sister, Megan Casey of Overland Park, as well as many aunts, uncles and cousins.

A Memorial Mass will be held at 10:30 a.m. Tuesday at St. Joseph Catholic Church, 11311 Johnson Drive, Shawnee, Kansas. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations in Tom’s memory to the Cholangiocarcinoma Foundation, 5526 W. 13400 South #510, Herriman, Utah 84096. The foundation helps people who suffer from bile duct cancer. Its website is at: https://cholangiocarcinoma.org/




Jacquelin Thompson Nov 12 ,2021

Neighbor ,Overland Park ,Kansas

I am so sad for your loss. My thoughts and prayers for all of you. God bless you.

Rhonda S Kimball Nov 12 ,2021

Friend of Tom's Parents ,OLATHE ,Kansas

This is a beautiful and inspiring tribute to Tom. I wish I could be more like him. He had unbelievable courage and compassion. Your loss is profound. I'm so sorry.

Maggie Myers Nov 12 ,2021

A tremendous loss. My prayers and thoughts are with Mary, Tom's parents and sister, Mary's parents, and all who knew and loved Tom.

Maressa Nov 12 ,2021

Friend & colleague ,Prairie Village ,Kansas

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lift you and your family up in my thoughts and prayers. I hope fond memories help you through this difficult time. I am heartbroken for you and your family.

Diana Erickson Nov 14 ,2021

dbpsych9@yahoo.com ,olathe ,Kansas

My sincerest condolences for your loss. My thoughts and prays will be with your family during this time. Tom was clearly loved by many.

Rose Ryan Nov 14 ,2021

As I sit here reading this lovely tribute, the tears flow freely. I am saddened by this tragic loss and moved by the kind and caring man your son was. I pray your family finds peace and comfort as you continue your journey of grief.

Malinde Peleg Nov 14 ,2021

Friend ,Overland Park ,Kansas

What a treasure Tom was here on Earth. He is a treasure in Heaven too, I'm sure. I love what you wrote about striving to be more like him. I'll work a little harder on that. God bless you.

Marianne Skorupsky Nov 14 ,2021

friend ,Olathe ,Kansas

Blessings to the family. There is a new angel in heaven.

Marsha Kaegi Nov 15 ,2021

Friend ,Burrton ,Kansas

My sincerest condolences for your loss. My thoughts and prays will be with your family during this time. Tom was clearly loved by many.

Melissa Casey-Shultz Nov 15 ,2021

JCMHC Adult Detox Unit Co-Worker ,Independence ,Missouri

I was so heartbroken to hear of Tom's death. We worked as shift partner for the last year or so. He was always kind, always encouraging, and always believed the best of those we served. I imagine Jesus welcomed him with open arms and these word, "Well done, my good and faithful servant". Tom demonstrated faith, hope, humility, and love everyday, from the moment he walked in, until he left at the end of the day. We talked sbout the fact that we were both from the Casey clan and what it means to be Irish. I always felt a special bond because our shared name. May God give you comfort as you adjust to life without his earthly presense. He will remain with you in spirit always.

Jan Easterday Nov 15 ,2021

Friend ,Westwood ,Kansas

Mike and Frieda, I’m so sorry to learn that Tom lost his battle with cancer. I remember him as a fun loving young man with such a great smile when I knew him at Miege. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Jan Easterday

Amy Cohen Nov 16 ,2021

Mary's co-worker ,Topeka ,Kansas

Mary and Family, Words cannot express the tragic loss of Tom, your loved one!! My heart goes out to all of you as he was clearly a loving, caring, and giving person to all who met him. With Deepest Sympthies, Amy Cohen

Jennifer Thompson Nov 16 ,2021

Cousin ,Brook Park ,Ohio

Sending prayers and hugs to you all❤❤

Brandy Jackson Nov 16 ,2021

Mary my sincerest condolences. My thoughts and prays will be with you and your families during this time.

Bill Art Nov 17 ,2021

My sincere condolences on the loss of such a fine human being. He used his sense of humor to good affect. Rest In Peace Thomas. I’ll certainly miss the conversation we had.

Becky Chipman Nov 17 ,2021

friend ,Independence ,Missouri

So sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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