Jan 05,1941---Feb 21,2021

Edmund Pilarz, 81, devoted husband, loving father, caring brother and trusted friend, passed away peacefully in his sleep at Kansas City Hospice House on February 21, 2021.

Ed was born on January 5, 1940 in Camden, New Jersey, son of Victor and Mary Pilarz (Zandarski). After graduating from Woodrow Wilson High School in 1958, Ed served in the United States Air Force, stationed at Forbes Field in Topeka, Kansas. Here he met his beloved bride, Virginia Pilarz (Ginny Reeves), beginning their journey of what became 60 years of life, love and laughter together. After being married on February 11, 1961, Ed and Ginny welcomed their daughter Staci in 1962, son Edmund in 1964 and son Jerry in 1970.

After serving on the Shawnee County Sheriff’s Department, Ed began his lifelong passion for sales, working on the Sherwin Williams team that concepted Braniff Airlines Flying Colors. Later he worked for the Gene Widick Company, a leading sporting goods distributor, travelling throughout the Midwest. He came into his own as a national sales leader for Orkin Pest Control. Ed and his family spent a short time living in Des Moines, IA, before finally transferring to Mission, Kansas, where he lived for the remainder of his life. Ed further honed his sales excellence with Chemspec, Inc., reinventing himself with immersive study and extensive expertise of cleaning chemicals and compounds. Ed’s devotion to the tenets of work and providing for his family was seen all the way up to the day that he was struck by the illness that was to eventually take his life. A lifelong love of the game of football was seen in his time as both an elementary school coach and a high school football referee, which he always spoke of fondly.

Ed loved his children with endless dedication and passion. Always there to lend a hand, coach the team, be a shoulder to cry on, help you paint a wall, change a tire, come over to help you with that tough project, provide a hug when you needed one and be the amazing guy that was always on your side, Ed was the best Dad anyone could ever ask for. When grandson Brian came into the family in 1980, Ed embraced his new role as a grandfather with the same heart and soul, here is when he became our Pops. Always there to help and support, Ed and Ginny were fervent devotees to Brian and his career as an excellent youth hockey player. Ed served as the President of the Kansas City Junior Blades, providing his leadership to many young hockey players.

Serving as a Lector was one of the many things that Ed loved about being a parishioner for 38 years at St. Pius X Church in Mission, Kansas, as his Catholic faith was deeply set in his core. Truly one to have never met a stranger, no image of Ed is clearer than when he’d approach anyone and everyone with his warm smile and cup of coffee in his left hand with his right hand extended for that wonderful handshake that made you feel loved and important.

Ed’s love for Ginny defined dedication, love and caring. He never missed a chance to tell her how much he loved her, be it a daily handwritten note or a surprise gift. His tireless dedication to Ginny as she faced many medical challenges throughout the years was truly something to behold.

The family wishes to thank all who cared for Ed at The University of Kansas Health System as he battled a host of health issues in his final days, as well as the staff at the Kansas City Hospice House who ensured that Ed departed this life with the dignity and respect he so richly deserved.

Ed leaves behind his wife Virginia Pilarz (Reeves) of Mission, Kansas; his sister Mary Ann Fitzpatrick (Ed) of West Deptford, New Jersey, his sister Melody Miller of Bellmawr, New Jersey, his brother Ron Pilarz (Joan) of Scranton, Pennsylvania; his children Staci Jennings (John) of La Cygne, Kansas, his son Edmund of Chicago, Illinois, his son Jerry Pilarz (Becky) of Overland Park, Kansas; his grandchildren Brian Pilarz (Amber) of Grandview, Missouri, Spicie Haile of Cape Girardeau, Missouri, Maddy Pilarz of Overland Park, Kansas, Lizzy and John Pilarz of La Grange, Illinois; and his great-grandchildren Alijah, Kaylee, Lily, Stasha and Dante. He is preceded in death by his parents Victor and Mary, his brothers Victor and Matthew and his granddaughter Helen Ann.

A Celebration of Life will be held in the Spring. In lieu of flowers, the family suggests donations to The Kansas City Hospice House.



Feb 23 ,2021

I will miss Ed at 4:30 Mass. He always had a smile handshake and a kind words. God bless Jinny through these hard times. May Perpetual Light Shine Upon Ed And May Ed Rest In Peace..

Nancy Denzer Feb 23 ,2021

To Ginny and all of the Pilarz family, I just wanted to say how sorry I was to hear of Ed’s passing. He was a good man and will be remembered, fondly, by many. Our prayers are with you all during this time.

Mary Jo Hegstrom Feb 23 ,2021

Neighbor ,Mission ,Kansas

Ginny, so sorry to hear about Ed. We loved being your neighbors for so many years! Loved how Ed would always tease and joke with us and our kids. Having missed seeing our parish family the last several months just makes Ed's passing harder to take. I know you were so devoted to him as he was to you! Praying for you and your family.

G. Alfred Kennedy Feb 23 ,2021

Ginny, Ed and I formed a friendship back in '55 when we entered Wilson and pursued our love of football. Ed was quick with a quip, a word of encouragement, and that timely block when those of us in the backfield needed to score a touchdown or gain extra yardage. I was saddened to learn of his passing and shall remember him fondly. Be well and be strong. "Al" Kennedy, Wilson '58.

Mitsy Donnelly Feb 23 ,2021

Neighbor/friend ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Dear Pilarz family, I am very to hear of Ed's passing. He was an excellent friend and neighbor to me for decades. Enjoy your rest Ed. Mitsy

Jeannie Gish Feb 23 ,2021

family friend ,Topeka ,Kansas

Staci, I'm so sorry for the loss of your Dad. I lost mine in 2007. Cherish the memories because eventually, they will bring you comfort. My memories of my Dad and I is something I will always cherish. To your Mom, Ginny, and your brothers, hoping you can find peace in these future days where you learn to navigate this life without him by your side. But always remember - he's with you! I fell my Dad around me all the time. With Sympathy, Jeannie Gish

Darlene Barry Feb 23 ,2021

Ginny, I just looked at the Porter funeral home site and recognized Ed’s picture. We are so sorry for your loss. You and your family are In our thoughts are prayers. Jim and I love coming to mass at Pius and he always made us feel so welcome. Jim and Darlene Barry

Judy & Frank Kelly Feb 24 ,2021

Family ,Hoffman Estates ,Illinois

Since we live in Illinois, we’ve only gotten to visit with Ed & Ginny when we visit. Our gatherings of course were always a special occasion, mostly our granddaughter’s special birthdays ...always a fun time. Of course there was always great food and drink, desserts & great conversation. We’ll miss you Ed ... may you Rest In Peace in the arms of our Lord.

Janie Ott Feb 24 ,2021

friend ,KC ,Kansas

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Jerry and Becky know that you have our support. Your TUKHS family is thinking about you. Janie Ott

Krystal Schwabauer Feb 24 ,2021

Friend ,Overland Park ,Kansas

I will never forget Ed’s laugh and kind heart. I always loved watching him swoon over Ginny; it was clear he adored her and was so very proud of her. We are continuing to send love & prayers to your family and are here to help however we can. All Our Love, Krystal & Family XOXOXOXO

Suzanne Gil Feb 25 ,2021

Niece ,Granbury ,Texas

Very sorry for your loss! Such a wonderful man. Much love, hugs and prayers for all!

Keith Haskamp Feb 26 ,2021

Friend ,Kansas City ,Missouri

Jerry, Thinking of you and your family. A great big loving hug and sympathy to you all. I'm here to listen or to help however I can. Take care. Keith

Richard Weissbeck Feb 28 ,2021

Coach ,Topeka ,Kansas

Ed you were a “Class Act” in my High School days at Hayden HS. Your words of Wisdom for the Grid Iron, made me a All-State Football Player!!! Thanks rw. (RIP)

Susan Belger Angulo Feb 28 ,2021

Friend ,Mission Hills ,Kansas

Ginny, My holidays were always brighter seeing you and Ed. He was truly one of a kind. I know how much he adored you, because he would tell me so! Sending you a HUGE virtual hug, till I can actually hug you. 🙏🏻❤️ Susan

Sue Grosdidier Feb 28 ,2021

Frie ,Mission ,Kansas

Dear Pilarz family, I was saddened to hear of Ed’s death; he was certainly a great guy, beloved by all. Sue Grosdidier

Mary Meyer-Paletta Feb 28 ,2021

Daughter's schoolmate ,Topeka ,Kansas

Staci and the Pilarz Family, Sorry to read of the passing of your beloved Dad and Husband. Cherish and remember all the years you were fortunate to have together. I remember how devoted Ed and Ginny were to their kids. Staci, hold your Mom close. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Mary Meyer-Paletta

Larry & Jane Hesse Feb 28 ,2021

Old friends ,Tpeka ,Kansas

Ginny and family, we will say a special prayer for Ed's soul as he enters this new life with his maker. One thing about Ed as we remember --you always knew where he stood. Rest in peace Ed.

Betsy Piebenga Mar 01 ,2021

Friend ,Fairway ,Kansas

Ginny- you and Ed were a true team when it came to gingerbread creations. He was your biggest cheerleader and was as thrilled as you were with each blue ribbon for your amazing houses and hours and hours of work.. May all those sweet memories give you comfort.

Todd Miller Mar 05 ,2021

Friend ,Kansas City ,Missouri

Oh Ginny I'm so sorry and lost for words. Ed was a terrific gentleman and always was a supporter! My heart is broken for you and the family. He was a delight to see during Holiday In Crestwood and to see you win every year that you entered. Ed will be missed by Crestwood and myself. someone sent this to me and I want to share I Have Not Gone You think I’ve gone, that I am dead, and life has lost its will, But look around, I am right there, living with you still I watch your tears, I feel your pain – I see the things you do I weep as well, each time you cry, my soul, it lives with you It gives such joy to hear you laugh, and do the things you do And when you smile o’er by gone days, I smile right with you too For we’re still one, just you and me, one mind, one soul, one being Walking forward into life, though only you are seen And in the stillness of the night, when the pain it really starts Stretch out a little with your mind and draw me to your heart For I am always right in there, always by your side For you have been, all my life’s days, my joy, my love my pride.