Robert J. DeHaven
Jan 22,1942---Sep 06,2020

Robert J. (Bob) DeHaven passed away peacefully in his home on September 6, 2020.  A Rosary and Visitation will be held Friday, September 11, 2020 at 5:00pm at Porter Funeral Home in Lenexa, KS.  Funeral Services will be held Saturday, September 12, 2020 at 10:00am at Cure of Ars Catholic Church in Leawood, KS.  The Burial is immediately following at Resurrection Cemetery in Lenexa, KS. 

Bob was born January 22, 1942 in Abilene, KS, the eldest child of Robert E. and Eulala DeHaven.  He grew up on the DeHaven Produce Farm near Solomon, KS.  


Bob was a Music Man and kept a song in his heart his entire life.  He always loved band and choir in grade school and high school and played trumpet for the VFW, sunrise services, and other events around Abilene, KS.  He attended Emporia State University where he received a degree in Music Education.  After teaching choral and instrumental music, Bob went on to be a District Sales Manager of band instruments, pianos, and organs, which took his family to Tulsa, Dallas, Winston-Salem and eventually to Overland Park.  


He is survived by his Abilene High School sweetheart and wife of over 57 years, Joyce DeHaven, siblings, Everett (Jean) DeHaven and Karen (John) D'Agostino, sons, Todd DeHaven and Eric (Jennifer) DeHaven, grandchildren, Kylie DeHaven, Dylan DeHaven, and Haley DeHaven, and many nieces and nephews.  


In lieu of flowers, the family suggests donations to:

Olivia Raya Endowed Scholarship Fund at Rockhurst University,1100 Rockhurst Rd., Kansas City, MO 64110


Ladies of Charity of Metropolitan Kansas City, P.O. Box 480753, Kansas City, MO 64148-0753


RickThornton Sep 08 ,2020

Classmate ,Valley Center ,Kansas

Dear Joyce, Faye and I are thinking of you and your family at this moment. remembering Bob’s amazing gifts and the loss you must feel.. I especially remember how Bob was such a DeMolay leader..! May you know We love you and offer prayers for your journey. Grace and peace, Rick and Faye Thornton

Jerry Hatten Sep 08 ,2020

Friend & AHS classmate ,Lenexa ,Kansas

DeHay was a fun classmate, great friend & wonderful person. He was an interesting & knowledgeable guy with many enviable talents! I know I will miss our conversations as well as enjoying a glass with him of “The Knot” Irish Spirit he introduced to me! Our heartfelt condolences to Joyce & family. Jerry & Marty

Nancy (Garrison) -‘& Phil Combs Sep 08 ,2020

Friend and classmate ,Oklahoma City ,Oklahoma

Dear Joyce and family: we were so sorry to hear of Bob’s passing. I will always remember his dancing skills and also his part as Peter in The Diary of Anne Frank.. I know he has left you with many memories made with the boys and you. Hold tight to those as they will help you get through this and you can recall them when you are sad. I know you, Joyce and I know you have great strength and an endless belief in God. Phil and I send our condolences to you and your family Nancy and Phil

Jody Burgard Sep 08 ,2020

friend ,Blue Springs ,Missouri

Joyce, my heart is sad for you. You are in my prayers. May you be blessed with peace and warm memories. Jody Burgard

Marie Pickard Sep 09 ,2020

friend ,Raytown ,Missouri

Dear Joyce, We are so very sorry. Andy & I send hugs & prayers. Marie

richard frisby (Bob) Sep 09 ,2020

class mate ,topeka ,Kansas

Dear Joyce, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Many fond memories of Bob and you high school days, and after. It will not be the same at reunions with out Bob. God Bless and peace be with you and family Bob F.

Becki Racunas Sep 10 ,2020

Joyce’s friend through Ladies of Charity ,Leawood

So sorry to hear of your loss. This weekend I will be traveling and will say a rosary as I drive. Please know that I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Becki Racunas

Sue Bethe Harari Sep 10 ,2020

classmate and long-time friend ,Addison ,Texas

Raindrops fall from the clouds, teardrops from our eyes, as the air and our hearts are cleansed for our dear friend, Bob DeHaven. See you on the other side. Sue Bethe Harari

Terry Radke Sep 11 ,2020

Curé of Ars choir ,Overland Park ,Kansas

I'm so sorry to hear of Bob's passing. I will miss him, his bass voice and friendship a lot when we return to choir, and am sad that our time together in choir ended so suddenly. Prayers for God's peace to you and eternal rest for Bob.

Tori Snowden Sep 11 ,2020

Friend ,Kansas City ,Missouri

Joyce, Sending you hugs and keeping you in my prayers. Tori

Porter Funeral Home
8535 Monrovia St.
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Sep 11 ,2020
5:00 PM
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Funeral Mass
Cure of Ars Catholic Church
9405 Mission Road
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Sep 12 ,2020
10:00 AM
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