David E. Shay , Age :57
Nov 09,1962---May 11,2020

David E. Shay, Esq., 57, passed away suddenly at his home Monday, May 11, 2020.

Dave was born November 9, 1962 in Scranton, PA. to Howard E. and Arlene J. Shay, who preceded him in death.

He was a graduate of Cameron R1 High School in Cameron, MO.  He earned his BS in Journalism from the University of Kansas in 1984.  He then went on to earn his Juris Doctor from the University of Kansas in 1988, where he was a member of Law Review and Order of the Coif.  He was sworn into the Missouri Bar Association in 1988.  He was a Shareholder at Seigfreid Bingham, PC over the past 20 plus years.

David was a coach and mentor to many young men through Kansas City Football and Cheerleading Club for more than 20 years.  This was a source of great joy for him.

Left to mourn his passing are his loving wife of 35 years, Kym Shay; Sons: Daniel Shay and wife Nicole, Mission, KS; Andrew Shay, Overland Park, KS; and Matthew Shay and wife Taryn, Salina, KS; Grandsons Jackson Shay and Kingslin Johnson; Brother Bill Shay and wife Gail, Rocky Hill, CT; Sisters Peggy Elliott, Oak Grove, MO; and Suzanne Shay, St. Joseph, MO: Mother-in-law, Sharon Grow, Prairie Village, KS; Coaching partner Reggie Foster; many nieces and nephews, great nieces and nephews, bonus kids, cousins, aunts, uncles, and friends.

Dave will be greatly missed by all who knew him.

Memorial contributions may be made to the David E. Shay memorial scholarship through Kansas City Football and Cheerleading Club.  Donate by clicking here

Private Family Services will be at 10:30 AM, Tuesday, May 19, 2020 at the Porter Funeral Home, Lenexa, KS.

Burial will be at the Resurrection Cemetery.

Condolences may be expressed at: www.porterfuneralhome.com Arrangements: Porter Funeral Homes & Crematory, 8535 Monrovia, Lenexa, KS (913) 438-6444)


Amelia "Rocky" Tillman May 16 ,2020

friend ,Tallahassee ,Florida

To Kym and family - I extend my deepest heartfelt sympathy. The loss of Pepper has truly hit me and I will miss him. He and I were the best of friends for 40 years. He was kind, generous and a true friend. May his memory be eternal and never forgotten.

Janice Pace May 17 ,2020

Aunt ,Kansas City ,Missouri

I won’t be able to attend David’s service, but All are in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Aunt Janice

karen glickstein May 17 ,2020

I worked with David for several years in the early1990s at Shughart Thomson. He was always so warm, welcoming--and had the best sarcastic, sharp sense of humor. I hope your membories will bring comfort.

Jen Huff May 18 ,2020

coach to my son ,Overland Park ,Kansas

My thoughts and prayers are with the entire family at this time. Dave touched so many lives for the good. I am glad my son got the honor of being coached by him and I know that he left a deep impact with my son that he will never forget. I will miss seeing him at the West games this fall as that is where i would always run into him and we would chat about how Brayde was doing with football and life in general!

Jeanette Schmeltz May 18 ,2020

Friend-Associate ,Kansas City ,Missouri

I worked with Dave at Seigfreid Bingham for over 20 years. He was a mentor, sounding board and good friend. You could always count on Dave to make you smile. He was easy going, laid back, and never took anything too seriously. His "one liners" could send you into hysterical laughter. He was super smart and super funny. Every Christmas eve, he would bring his famous pumpkin cheesecake to work which was the reason a lot of us worked on Christmas eve! Dave, I will miss you. This is a terrible loss but I hope the family can take some comfort that Dave was loved by all of us here at Seigfried Bingham and made our days and lives better for knowing him. Rest in peace Dave.

Helen Leskoff May 18 ,2020

Seigfreid Bingham ,Olathe ,Kansas

I will surely miss the presence of a truly lovable and kind person. Gone but not forgotten.

Angie Gunion May 18 ,2020

Team parent ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Dave was a good guy who had a great laugh and was always good to inspire the boys never give up. He had some great jokes when we needed it and truly loved being in the field.

Kyle Thomas May 18 ,2020

Friend ,LEAWOOD ,Kansas

Coach Dave has coached our son as a Viking for 4 years, he has shown such kindness, leadership and been a role model in showing respect to each and every boy on the team. I will never forget we were once leaving practice and (as usual) I had my hands completely full. Coach Dave SCOLDED my son that he did not offer to carry anything for me - and since that day, he never lets anyone leave the car without offering to take something off their hands. We will never be able to thank you for sharing your husband, dad and friend with so many boys for so many years. He has made an impact on so many young lives and we will forever be in your debt.

Taylor Family May 18 ,2020

Friend ,Lenexa ,Kansas

Dave was a great man and coached our son in football. We hated to hear of his passing. Thoughts and prayers to his family!

Brian Janelle May 18 ,2020

neighbor ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Kym, Dan, Rew, Matt, and family, We are so sorry to hear about the passing of David. Our thoughts and prayers have been with you since we heard it from Jay. If there is ANYTHING we can do for you now or in the future, please don't hesitate to ask us. May God give you peace as you go through the grieving process, and comfort in all the loving memories of David.

Kay Edson May 18 ,2020

Friend ,Saint Joseph ,Missouri

As a friend of Suzanne, I feel so sorry for her and all of David's family. He was obviously a great personto all those who knew him, and will be missed by many. With sympathy,. Kay Edson

Susan Donovan May 19 ,2020

Friend ,Kansas City

My deepest sympathies for your loss. God Bless.

Natalie May 19 ,2020

Colleague ,St. Louis ,Missouri

My sincerest condolences to Dave's family. I had the pleasure to have worked with Dave on many occasions over the past five years. He was always professional, kind and funny, too. He will be missed by many and that includes the Equipment Dealers Association family.

Chris May 19 ,2020

Neighbor/Friend ,OP ,Kansas

I want to keep the entire Shay family in our thoughts and prayers!! They lost "Dad" today! A true good neighbor and a friend! A Great Husband to Kym Shay and a Wonderful Dad to Dan Shay , Andrew Shay and Matt Shay ! Dave you shall be missed, not for your smart ass remarks but because you are a solid guy! I watched you coach at Chiefs stadium for SMW Football at halftime, when we didn't know each other (Chiefs vs Seattle preseason game) and celebrated many a fish fries with you as well! You thought enough to include Jake and I in the Royals World Series parade in front of your office on Grand. I use to wake up to fresh (front yard ) garden tomatoes and jalapenos on the hood of my truck during garden season. He even brought me a Saints visor home from his and Reggie's New Orleans/LSU trip! Only person I have ever known to plan a trip yearly to watch a college and a pro game in the same weekend in the same state!!! RIP Dave you shall be missed!!

Bill & Gail Shay May 19 ,2020

Brother ,Rocky Hill ,Connecticut

Thank you for including us on Zoom where we were able to be with Kym and family. We shared tears when you all said your last goodbyes. We are with you in sorrow and love. We look forward to the time when we can all be together again.

Nessa May 19 ,2020

Family Friend ,Lenexa ,Kansas

I am so sorry and deeply saddened to hear about the loss of Dave. The Shays became a second family to me and though we have lost contact over the years, they all have a special place in my heart. Dave was great man and an even better father to his boys. He also always went out of his way to make me and his other "bonus kids" feel welcome and loved. He truly was a dad to all. Dave's smarts and sense of humor were unmatched, you couldn't help but to be happy around him. He was loved and will be missed by many. Mama Shay, Rew, Matty, and Dan Dan you are in my thoughts, love you all.

Rod Eisenhauer May 20 ,2020

Former Co-Worker ,Olathe ,Kansas

I practiced with Dave at Seigfreid Bingham from 1999-2006. He was always ready with a quip or interjection to raise a smile. Such a compassionate, warm-hearted individual. Haven't had the pleasure of being around Dave in awhile, but I'm certain he will be greatly missed by those who have. Blessings, Kym and family - may God bless you in this time.

James Koenigsdorf May 24 ,2020

Friend/fellow coach ,overland park ,Kansas

Met Dave almost 30 years ago as we were both coaches for SM West through the Football and Cheerleading Club of Johnson County. Great guy who positively influenced the young people of our community for the entire time I've known him. I'll especially miss his sense of humor. Godspeed Counselor,

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