Robert Dean Aley, Age :78
Mar 19,1942---May 12,2020

Robert Dean Aley, 78, Shawnee, KS, passed away Tuesday, May 12, 2020, at Olathe Hospice House.  A private mass will be held for Bob at Good Shepherd Church, followed by a private burial at Mount Calvary Cemetery in Topeka, KS.  To honor Bob’s faith-filled devotion to Catholic Education, in lieu of flowers please consider a contribution to the St. Thomas Aquinas Guardian Angel Fund:  Donate by clicking here

Bob was born March 19, 1942, in Topeka, KS, the son of Charles and Dorothy Aley.   Bob attended Conception Seminary from 1960 – ‘65.  He faithfully served 45 years in Catholic Education: Hayden High School, Topeka, KS (’65-’78); Sacred Heart High School, Salina, KS (’78-’83); Aquinas High School, Shawnee, KS (’83-’88); and St. Thomas Aquinas, Overland Park, KS (’88-2010).   Bob cherished his time serving as a Guidance Counselor and Spiritual Director, where he inspired and shaped the lives of many students.

Bob is survived by his wife of 52 years, Teresa, and together they raised six children:  Melanie (Nate) Klover, Aaron Aley, Tiffany (Mick) Coleman, Megan (Dave) Scharpenburg, Joel (Amanda) Aley, and Resa (Matt) Thomas.   One of his proudest legacies in life is his 14 grandchildren: Andrew, Addi, Christian, Aiden, Carson, Dillon, Marcus, Mady, Ellie, Jaxon, Tyler, Bennett, Davis, and Corbin.


Carol May 14 ,2020

Co-worker & friend ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Heartfelt sympathy to all as you mourn the loss of the physical presence of Bob. He is always with us.

Mark and Roxanne Netemeyer May 14 ,2020

We are praying for you and your family at this time. Bob touched so many lives and will be missed.

Fr. Kenneth Reichert, O.S.B. May 14 ,2020

Friend ,Conception ,Missouri

Death of a person we love is always difficult. Bob was a friend of mine for many years since his years as a seminarian here. God give him now eternal rest and happiness. Fr. Kenneth

Jim and Evelyn Best May 14 ,2020

Friends ,Topeka ,Kansas

Teresa and family, sending our condolences and thoughts and prayers for God to send His comfort and peace during this time of sorrow. We are so grateful for Bob’s mentoring gift to Ryan during his time at STA. During this time, may you find comfort in all the memories. May he Rest In Peace.

Kathy (Butler) Votaw May 14 ,2020

Former Student ,Topeka ,Kansas

Deepest Sympathy to the family. He touched many lives with his kindness. Forever Rest in Peace, Mr. Aley. Kathy Butler Votaw Hayden High Class of 1975

Gerald waris May 15 ,2020

Friend ,Overland Park ,Kansas

Dear Teresa and family I wanna offer my sincere sympathy and I just read online about his passing. I remember him well when we spend time together at conception seminary I’m so sorry to hear of your loss Anne my prayers are with you and the family much love padre Jerry

Graham Hopkins May 15 ,2020

Friend ,Kansas City ,Missouri

Bob you were a good, good man. You were the first mentor I ever had. You helped me see the light in dark times. You helped change my perspective on the world. From an angry abused teenager to a capable young adult with perspective and resilience. You helped make me a better man and you were the first person who really tried. You will be greatly missed my friend. I will always hold our time together close to my heart. I will keep your father’s pen in good care and pass it on when I find the right person. See you when I get there my friend. Much, much love, Graham

Bob & Jeanne Dykmann May 15 ,2020

Friend ,Lenexa ,Kansas

Our heartfelt condolences go out to all of you. Bob was such a caring, loving person that will always remain in our hearts. You are in our thoughts and prayers!

Vickie (Hamilton) Holthaus May 15 ,2020

Student of his ,Topeka ,Kansas

So sorry for the family’s loss! He taught us religion, out of the Bible, I think when I was a freshman at Hayden High. I’m a 1974 graduate. I really enjoyed that class. Mr. Aley made it truly interesting, and I actually learned! One of my all-time favorites.

Liliana Scott May 15 ,2020

Friend of Teresa ,Grandview ,Missouri

The Romero Committee is praying for you and your family at this time Teresa.

Heather Mermis Anderson May 15 ,2020

He was my high school guidance counselor ,Olathe ,Kansas

Mr. Aley was an amazing and caring man. He was my guiding light during high school and helped me through some of my darkest days. He was so easy to talk to, compassionate, real, and genuine. I think of him often and keep his kind words and lessons close to my heart every day. He will be greatly missed, but lives on in the many lessons he taught and the love he gave. I’m so sorry for your loss and will keep the entire facility in my prayers.

Molly Brockwell May 16 ,2020

Co-worker ,Atchison ,Kansas

I’m so sorry to hear of Bob’s passing. What a wonderful soul! The sisters at the Mount are praying for Bob, and for Teresa and all the family. May the sharing of memories give you comfort and peace in your sorrow.

mary f clinton May 17 ,2020

Prayers to the family, Mr. Aley was my debate teacher, a class I truly enjoyed. Good teacher. RIP

Gary/Catherine Henderson May 17 ,2020

Friend ,Shawnee ,Kansas

We are so sorry to hear of Bob’s death. He will be sorely missed. Didn’t realize he taught at Sacred Heart high school in Salina from which I graduated. We will keep all of you on our prayers

Benjamin Schloegel May 17 ,2020

Former Student ,Kansas City ,Missouri

Bob was an exceptional man and I am forever indebted to him for what he did for me, my family and the profound impact he had on my life. He loved me until I could learn to love myself and made an unbearable point in my life tolerable enough to struggle through. Through his actions he demonstrated just how important living one's faith is and the power of kindness and compassion when we extend it to others. My hope is that in my life I have been able to extend just a fraction of the grace to others that he so generously gave to me, especially when I least deserved it or wanted it. Bob not only saved my life and brought me back to the path of the world around me he made me want to stay on it and to help others. He never once made me second guess what I was feeling or reminded me of my many failings and he always let me know that when I was ready there was a world that wanted me to come back to. Thank you Teresa and his many children for sharing Bob with us, it is my hope that you know how deep an impact he has had on my journey in this life and my hope that I have and can continue to pay it foward.

Klarilee Meseke May 17 ,2020

Ben and I love the Aleys - all of you and will miss Bob. We were fortunate to visit with him several times in the last few months and are grateful for that. May he rest in peace and you all enjoy great family memories.

Jeanette Christian May 17 ,2020

Friend ,Topeka ,Kansas

Dear Teresa and family: I am sorry to hear of the passing of Bob. Michael loved you both so very much. May the Angels rejoice as he rests in our Heavenly Father's Kingdom. Thinking of you all and sending all my love and prayers. Love Jeanette Christian

Rita McGinnis May 17 ,2020

Classmate and friend ,Leavenworth ,Kansas

Theresa, prayers for you and your family as you mourn Bob’s passing and celebrate his life. I have so many wonderful memories through the years of Bob. We were in school together in Topeka. He would say that we spent senior skip day together, and he was right but it was working at the rectory at Holy Name, so not as crazy as it sounded. When I was principal at Bishop Ward he was part of an informal principal support group that we formed to support each other and share our best ideas. My best memories are around his passion to students, colleagues, friends. What a good man-you are yours have my sympathy. Rita McGinnis, SCL

Jim Sanders May 17 ,2020

Friend ,Lenexa ,Kansas

Teresa: I’m so sorry to hear of Bob’s passing! As you know, I know what you and your family are going through and especially at this time of the pandemic! You and Bob will be in my prayers!

Rose Marie Stallbaumer May 17 ,2020

May Bob Rest In Peace. My prayers and thoughts are with you, Teresa, and all the family. May many happy memories grant you strength and peace.

Fredis Sandoval May 17 ,2020

Amigo de Teresa ,San Salvador, El Salvador ,Kansas

Comparto con Teresa y su familia el don de Dios que representó el señor Aley, el agradecimiento por su ejemplo de buena persona, buen cristiano, buen profesional, buen mensajero de Dios. Respondió bien al llamado que le hizo Jesús a seguirlo y contribuir a la realización del reino de Dios. Asimismo comparto la certeza de la fe de que participa de la vida plena en el reino eterno de Dios; llegó a la meta, que es también nuestra meta y a la cual llegaremos animados por el ejemplo de su enytega y servicio a las tareas del Evangelio de Jesús y su reino de vida.

Helen Walsh May 17 ,2020

Friend from Topeka ,Topeka ,Kansas

Teresa, My thoughts and prayers are with you. Many memories of times Dick and I spent with you and Bob while you were in Topeka. Our three kids were at Hayden while Bob was there. God Bless and comfort you now. Helen Walsh

Eileen Rudzinski May 17 ,2020

Dear Teresa, thinking of you and your family at this time of loss and change. Sending my love.

Sister Judith Jackson SCL May 18 ,2020

Friend and former colleague ,Leavenworth ,Kansas

Dear Teresa and family, You have my deepest sympathy and prayers as you mourn Bob’s death and celebrate his life with you and his new life in Christ. I have such fond memories of teaching with Bob over fifty years ago at Hayden. His love of Scripture, Jesus and the Church was so deep even then in his young life. Bob and Teresa were newly married and beginning their beautiful family. As a Sister of Charity, I am grateful to Bob and Teresa for their faithful witness to love of family, friends, their faith community and the wider issues of social justice in our world. May Bob rest in peace. Love, Sister Judith Jackson SCL

Andie Valdivia May 18 ,2020

former student ,Kansas

Aley family, I am extremely sorry for your loss. Mr. Aley left an impact on my life. Accept my condolences and prayers. ~Andie Valdivia

Bruce & Roberta Bird May 18 ,2020

Son's co-workers ,Shawnee ,Kansas

Arron, We wish to extend our sympathy to you and your family in the passing of your father. Our Heavenly Father has you all in His care.

Susie and Bob Flentie May 18 ,2020

Friend ,Shawnee ,Kansas

Dear Teresa, I was so saddened to hear of Bob’s passing. I have thought of you both often. I’m so happy my dad and Bob became friends. Dad talked so fondly of Bob so many, many times. If it weren’t for my dad and Bob’s friendship I would never have had the opportunity to know both of you. Please know that you all will be in my thoughts and prayers. Heaven is a little brighter now that Bob is there. Love to you and your family!

Ellen McAndrews May 18 ,2020

Friend ,Lenexa ,Kansas

Teresa, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May Bob Rest In Peace.

Randy & Silvia Hole May 19 ,2020

Friends ,Shawnee Mission ,Kansas

Our thoughts are with Teresa, and the Aley family as you go thru this difficult period and mourn this great loss. We pray God provides you comfort with multiple joyful memories of Bob. Descanse en Paz!

Patricia Hrynewich May 19 ,2020

Friend ,Topeka ,Kansas

Teresa and family, I was very sorry to hear of Bob’s death. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers It’s been a long time since I worked with Bob but I remember him well. Great memories.

Mary Pat weese May 22 ,2020

I taught for him at sacred heart high school in salina ,Salina ,Kansas

Teresa, my heart is breaking for you and your family in the loss of Bob. I was a teacher at Sacred Heart High School when he was there , and missed him when he left! I remember him as caring for the kids and the teachers- he would have get togethers for us so we could unwind and relieve some of the stresses of teaching!! There was never a dull moment when Bob was around and I’ve never had a principal quite like him!! I remember you as one of the sweetest women I ever knew, and enjoyed watching your children grow and watching the gentle, loving way you both parented them. I hope you can all find peace. Thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Bob and Jean Sumner May 22 ,2020

Friend ,Shawnee ,Kansas

So very sorry to hear of Bob's passing.